Can We Talk? - Researcher Talks About the Role of Communication in Marriages

"Can We Talk? Researcher Talks about the Role of Communication in Marriages,"

Tasha Sanders

C0M 200

Reginald Doctor

August 11,2011

"Can We Talk? Researcher Talks about the Role of Communication in Marriages,"

Communication is essential to any good relationship. With many years in a relationship, communication tends to die out. Couples need to find ways to keep communication alive in their relationships, whether verbal or non-verbal. Quantity versus Quality is the question here? Do you want good quality conversation, or meaningless quantity conversation?

Good quality communication is really important in a relationship, whether it is a marriage, dating, or friendship. If you can get good quantity with quality communication in your relationship then nothing else could be more awesome. With the busy schedules of everyone today, that can wreak havoc on good communication in any relationship.

"Romantic relationships begin with a lot of sharing and excitement, but as time goes on, children, elderly parents, exercise routines, volunteer work and even hobbies can push the relationship to the back burner" (Schoenberg, 2011)

I can relate to this article on the self-disclosure in a relationship. In my experience it is important to have good quality communication even if the quantity of time is not available. If you and your significant other can have a good ten minutes of good quality communication, I believe it will make for a better relationship.

Self-disclosure is important in a relationship and is directly related to great satisfaction in your relationship with your partner. You can be in a relationship for years and still not know everything about your partner. So every day, or every couple days, even if it is only for ten minutes of your time, try to learn something about your partner. Everyday something different or new can occur in someone's life, so you can start there. Learn or talk about feelings or goals in your partner's life, as those things can change on a daily basis as well. Letting your partner know how much you care or love them every day keeps the love alive and even better if those words can be accompanied by hugs and kisses or something that you know is special in your partner's life.

I believe that both men and women need "affective affirmation" don't think one gender over the other is about one way of behavior. I have experienced all sorts of affective affirmation, from physical to verbal and they all put a smile on my face.

"When you communicate non-verbally, you use your voice and parts of your body to send messages.