Seeking Approval

Case A: the mind shuffles to and fro, sifting between the endless options, which splutters the basis of his thought like sand at a beach. This man, ladies and gentleman, is caught up in the finesse wordplay he must undertake to ensure his promotion, his boss must like him and mostly approve of him, hence the man resolves to change himself, to undertake this job.

Case B: a young child, sits on the boundary of a school playground, stabbing at the bark with her feet as the chatter and laughter of young children flood the scene. Sitting alone, she is adamant in herself that she will not get the fringe that the other girls have and are trying to get her to do, they call her piggy wiggly pigtails, on account of her braided locks, yet she smiles it off knowing that she likes it and it makes her happy, she does not need their approval.

Ladies and Gentleman, these two cases represent the basis of my speech, seeking approval through self satisfaction and external influence.

Seeking approval is one of our most primitive and instinctive mechanisms, and it affects humans of all ages and personalities. There are two types of approval; self approval and approval from others. Self approval is when an individual seeks approval only from themselves with no impact from others; it is when a person feels satisfied with themselves. Seeking approval from others is when a person silently needs the nod of satisfaction to feel good about themselves. It is a never ending process.

Seeking approval is imbued so directly and deeply with ourselves that it has become intertwined with who we are, our acts themselves centre upon this admittance.

We also both subconsciously and consciously give our approval, making this circle possible, this entire give and take scenario is an important component of our social convention and the cornerstone of this foundation is nothing other than seeking approval.

"What a nice dress, or where did you get those shoes?" these simple examples of social conventions are us as people seeking approval, because it has become so ingrained in our social structure that we do it out of habit and what we think is being nice. Why do we buy those shoes or that great dress? The answer ladies and gentle man is not as simple as merely looking good, because what is that good, I speak off?

Some may argue that goodness, or beauty or whatever else is within the eye of the beholder, however whatever we are gauging about someone else, is our level of approval of them, which is what they seek, when we say nice shoes, our so called compliment is merely our message or approval, something the recipient also wishes to hear.

Ergo this circle of giving and receiving has just been demonstrated as a mere act of seeking approval.

Sometime and somewhere, the circle of seeking approval will tangent off in a weird direction, one that may