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This article that I read about related to a lot of conversation that my husband and I have all the time. Sometimes I feel as if it is a waste of time. I think I can communicate with friend better then I can with my husband.

Because for some reason we stay into it with each other over the less little thing. "People commonly believe that they communicate better with close friends than with strangers. That closeness can lead people to overestimate how well they communicate, a phenomenon we term the 'closeness-communication bias,'" study co-author Boaz Keysar, a professor in psychology at the University of Chicago, said in a university news release. I agree with "Boaz Keysar statement that we do whole a conversation better with friends. A co-author "Nicholas Epley", a professor of behavioral science at the University of Chicago, Booth School of Business, explained the differences this way: "Our problem in communicating with friends and spouses is that we have an illusion of insight. Getting close to someone appears to create the illusion of understanding more than actual understanding". (Smith 2008) The U.S. National Library of Medicine, Copyright © 2011 Health Day

Communication that is misunderstood and how it can break up a relationship. As I read this article it made me think back to the close encounter I had with my then boyfriend and now husband. The conversation took place at a use to be friend home, the conversation we had was about, relationships and their problems. This friend was talking on and on about the problems that my cousin and her where having, she stated that all the problems where from hear, say, which stated she was a cheater and the child that she had for my cousin was not his. So I elaborated and asked, have you ever cheated on him? Her slow response gave me the impression

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that she had cheat and just maybe child was not his. As the conversation went on she asked, "Have you ever cheated on your man?" I replied "No" Now my answer to her question didn't really sit with her, because she felt as if I was lying. So as my answer sinks in her mind, her next question was, "had you ever thought about cheating", I stated "NO", because another man or even woman is nothing but another headache and I did not need that, because if you have your stay at home man or woman with you, you do not need an outside one. Take this into consideration, what if that man or woman get upset with you and then you have to deal with their situation too.

So later that evening my cousin and my ex-friend got into a disagreement over him spending to much time in the street and not enough time at home with her and the baby and somehow the conversation we