Ways of Communicating

Have self-worth

Self-worth is analogous to self-confidence. The better you feel about yourself (i.e. the more you think you're worth), the more confident you're going to be. With self-worth, you can get what you want out of every conversation. Without self-worth you'll be stuck in small-talk. In order to get what you want out of a conversation, you must give the other person a chance to believe that you're worthy of their time and effort.

Get interested in other people

People have two stations which other people can listen to, WIFM (what's in it for me) and WIFO (what's in it for others). WIFM is boring for people to listen to. Most people are interested in themselves. People want to be flattered, and you can do this by letting the other person talk about him or herself, by changing the channel to WIFO.

By changing the channel to WIFO, you have just led the person to feeling good about themselves. Since you were the one who made them feel good about themselves, they will be indebted to you and will want to pay you back by helping you out with what you wanted them to do for you.

Open up a person's heart

You can do this five different ways...(1) Ask open-ended questions that really get the other person talking a lot. How was your day/weekend/week? What are your hobbies? What do you think of this town? If there is one wish you could wish for, what would it be? The last one might really get them thinking. Don't limit yourself to just talking about the weather. Ask questions that make them think, that they would be interested in answering, as they feel good about themselves sharing their life with someone. In this case, you! Warning: Don't just shoot many questions in a row without sharing a little bit about yourself. Doing this may make them feel uncomfortable, as they think you're like a police officer or detective trying to solve a crime.

(2) Compliment them! However, be specific; don't just say you look nice. That doesn't mean anything, but if you say, "you have a beautiful dress, it really compliments your skin color," then you have a genuine compliment. (3) Ask a person's name when you first meet them and remember it. From then on, address them by their name at all times. (4) Smile, you can never smile too much. (5) Have a good sense of humor.

Listen at least two times more than you talk

You have two ears and one mouth for a reason. Therefore, you should listen twice as much as you speak. To show that you're listening effectively, you must ask follow-up questions. A follow-up question shows the other person that you're listening, and perhaps equally important extends the length of