Letter of Advice

Dear Sarah and John,

First and foremost, I would like to congratulate the both of you on your recent engagement! I am more than thrilled to give the both of you advice from what I learned taking a interpersonal communication course. I will also implement my own personal experience from my relationship in order to give you both the best possible advice I can muster. Communication is one of the most important foundations within a relationship and marriage.

Communication can determine whether the relationship will last for many years, or unfortunately if it will end suddenly or overtime. Communication is very important in the beginning as well as throughout the relationship in order for the relationship to go smoothly. However, no one is perfect at communicating and we all tend to communicate on different levels thus is way I am giving the best possible advice on communicating for a healthy, happy and long relationship. I hope you find the information I give to be beneficial in your relationship.

When communicating with your spouse, please remember that words have the power to create and effect attitudes, behavior, and perceptions. Words are can be very powerful and if the wrong words are used then they can be painful, hurtful, as well as damage the relationship. Not only the words we speak but also our body language facial features all come into play when attempting communication with other people (Sole, 2011).

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Advice for communicating effectively in Relationships

Our means of communication, particularly through use of language, is one characteristic of beings a part of society. We may think that communication is natural and take it for granted; however, effective communication is a skill that must be learned and is crucial in both personal and professional life. Our parents started teaching us from the day we were born, and it requires awareness of what we and others are doing when we communicate and it requires effort to improve communication skills and to minimize misunderstandings (Sole, 2011).

In order for couples to endure long, lasting, healthy, and happy marriages it is best that the couple sit down and have a conversation for at least 10 minutes each day. The conversation must have meaning to it. Talking about whom is going to pick up the kids or who is going to do the dishes is not a fulfilling conversation. Learning about something that your spouse that you did not know is a meaningful conversation. As I read in an article there are certain questions that you should ask. Such as, where would your favorite vacation be? What is your favorite movie? Or what is your favorite book? (Schoenberg, 2011) Are questions in which you can learn more about your partner.

When couples practice effective affirmation behavior, studies shown that couples are also much happier in their relationships. Effective affirmation behavior is when couples show love, care and concern towards each other. (Schoenberg, 2011) However, words are not always needed just by giving your partner a simple hug, kiss, and even a meaningful thank